the learning field

"Ye shall surely travel from stage to stage" 84:19

While some inadvertently perceive marriage or baitul muslim as a reward or an award or maybe an acknowledgement, it might be just another learning field for some.

And while marriage is some sort of a "Level Up!", life isn't Monopoly or The Game of Life or Super Mario or whatever. Life isn't a board game with one or a few paths for the player. In reality, the players walk in their own unique path. And our actions and reactions...and feelings toward things are unique. Well, even our blueprints of life are unique....none of us are coded the same :) Our paths are different, our struggles are different no matter how similar our minds think they are.. for God's plans are beyond our thinking capability. We do not share the same criteria to pass one level in order to go to the next. And our levels might not be the same. Marriage might be Level 3 for a person who's walking in path 1 and it might be Level 5 for someone else walking in path 2.

While typing this, I actually got this epiphany that we don't have to compare. Well yeah, in the Maratib Amal we are introduced to, the levels are something like Individu Muslim then Baitul Muslim then Masyarakat Muslim and it goes on, but it doesn't mean when someone get to move from Individu Muslim to Baitul Muslim, he/she is better than the rest who are still in Individu Muslim stage. Well he/she might be but not necessarily :) We are assigned to different learning fields.

We might sometime think someone is way too childish to even pursue marriage. We might sometime perceive someone is so lacking of this and that to even ask a father for his daughter's hand in marriage. While physical and financial readiness are crucial in pursuing marriage, the willpower to make sure it'll work out is sort of the driver. Willpower might drive one to an ideal physical and financial state to pursue marriage. And of course, with Allah's permission. You never know how different (in a positive way la) a man might be after the 'saat lafaz sakinah' or a lady after a ring is worn on her finger.

I'm definitely not gonna say "Dont judge" or "Dont compare" because at the end of the day we always do, automatically most of the times. It's just that, most of the time, we should open up or minds to the endless possibilities. For sure, this is a note to self too =.="

i feel that it's not typical of me to write about marriage stuffs
and am not much of the right person to do so too
since I well uh have no experience :P
it's just merely a little thought that crossed my mind
then suddenly when I try to put it into words,
it became this long.
well, suddenly.

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Ready is when you want to be ready, no?